Blessings for the New Year, Dear Friends 🙂
On the second day of the year, my dear old Airedale became seriously ill and the following heart-wrenching day, she said goodbye looking into my eyes, knowing, loving and fearless – what a remarkable dog! My heart feels heavy and sad at the loss of a dear friend.
Death puts things in perspective. Its a reality check; it helps determine our priorities and choices. Is it what we fear the most – the loss of life?
Instead of feeling fear, humans are known to avoid it and perhaps develop addictions, obsessive behaviours, anxiety issues, depression or, fair enough, run faster!
I didn’t know my own anxiety issues were about not facing my fears. In fact, I didn’t even know I was an anxious type of personality. As my Journey coach and teacher said to me – anxiety can be like wall-paper – you don’t notice it. But then the pieces fell into place and I could see where it started and how it became reinforced and manifest in my life. The day we spent together was revelatory. Being led to recognition set the stage for facing and surrendering to feeling fear – the cold, annihilating terror … which, most surprisingly, dissolved into nothing. No thing except a sense of true, peaceful benevolence.
In a recent Cocreate article where creative leaders in US advertising were interviewed, I was surprised to read the words of this guy Patroulis who was commenting on what he will do to be more creative in 2015:
Hunting down fear and killing it wherever it hides. In conversations. In ideas. In briefs. In executions. In how we’re shaping our own business. Fear is the enemy of creativity, and we’re on too much of a roll right now to give it any air. We owe that to our clients, our partners, and anyone who might interact with anything we make. Chaos often creates fear, but chaos is also where all the opportunity lies. And we’re living in a wonderfully, fantastically, excitingly chaotic world. Creatively. Technologically. Behaviorally. And that’s something to enjoy instead of fear.
How does one hunt down and kill fear, the paper tiger which seems so real? The Journey process of addressing fears is an intentional one of being curious, attending to emotional experience and hanging out with fear for the short time is seems real rather than fighting. It is powerfully effective once you know how. Being afraid of fear and not wishing to address it equates to staying small and comfortable, whereas allowing the range of emotional experience is liberating. Journey coaching to face fears is a game-changer indeed.